There’s a good reason that Buddhists seem obsessed with suffering. Suffering is the central problem that Buddhism addresses, and recognizing our suffering is the first step to its solution. Suffering is a universal truth—along with impermanence and nonself it’s one of the three basic qualities (marks) of existence—but it comes in many forms. To help us recognize our suffering—and so begin to seek its cause and cessation—Buddhists have broken it down into different categories.
While there are many subcategories, we are asked to contemplate three basic patterns of suffering in our lives:
1. The suffering of suffering
This is the one we’re all familiar with: the pain of birth, old age, sickness, and death, as the Buddha described it.
2. The suffering of change
When you do get what you want, you can’t hold onto it. Even if things are going great now, it’s just a matter of time. The richest, most successful person in the world will eventually lose it all (see 1).
3. All-pervasive suffering
This is the type of suffering we are most likely not to recognize, yet the most instructive when we do. It’s the general background of anxiety and insecurity that colors even our happiest moments. Deep down, we fear that life doesn’t offer us solid ground and that our very existence is questionable. From a Buddhist point of view, these doubts are well-founded, and exploring them offers us glimpses of wisdom.
