When a car drove over her foot, Carla Beharry felt like her anger would never end. She soon learned that the only way out of suffering is through it.
As a dharma teacher, says Zenju Earthlyn Manuel, she’s told she shouldn’t feel or express rage, but she disagrees.
Pema Chödrön describes the process of looking compassionately and honestly at our own minds. In the end, she says, freeing ourselves from anger and hostility comes down to choosing which wolf we want to feed.
Josh Korda on what his irritating meditation partner taught him about being with aversion and overcoming anger.
Rashid Hughes shares how mindfulness helps us discern if our compassion is actually aggression.
Constance Kassor explains why patience isn’t a passive tolerance of harm. Instead, patience requires a recognition of the deep interconnectedness of the world and an active engagement with it.
We can suppress anger and aggression or act it out, either way making things worse for ourselves and others. Or we can practice patience.
The most straightforward advice on how to discover your true nature is this, says Pema Chödrön: practice not causing harm to anyone—neither yourself nor others—and every day, do what you can to help.
To give yourself a fighting chance against negative patterns, says Josh Korda, you’ve got to get at the driving forces behind them.
His Holiness the Dalai Lama takes an in-depth look at how we can work with anger and hatred in our practice.