When Eric Steuer discovered his childhood bully was now a Buddhist teacher, he asked him the question he’d always wanted to: Why did you treat me that way?
Swimming Upstream
Chinese legend has it that if a carp swims up a waterfall, it transforms into a dragon. Be like that carp, says Koshin Paley Ellison. Throw your whole self into waking up.
Buddhist restorative justice expert sujatha baliga awarded MacArthur “Genius Grant”
Buddhist attorney and restorative justice expert sujatha baliga has been named one of the 2019 fellows of the MacArthur Foundation.
Our Beloved Enemies
Sylvia Boorstein shows us how, with practice, we can glimpse new ways of relating to loved ones, even when we’re stuck.
The Undefended Heart
The way to helpful communication in difficult situations, says Ray Buckner, is by pausing, creating space, and listening to your body and mind.
What to Do When Your Dharma Group Doesn’t Get Along
What to do when spiritual friendships turn into spiritual feuds? Erric Solomon draws on management principles, dharma teachings, and personal experience to offer practical tips for dealing with conflict in dharma groups.
Meeting Heart-to-Heart
When it comes to difficult people, says Koshin Paley Ellison, the key is two people willing to let go of being right.
10 Vows to Not Make Things Difficult
“Who’s really making things difficult?” asks Zen teacher Karen Maezen Miller. Here are ten ways to take care of your end.
Ego Is the Real Culprit
No matter what the conflict appears to be about, says Zen teacher Norman Fischer, it always come down to defending our shaky sense of self.
How to Walk in Someone Else’s Shoes
Contemplative psychologist Karen Kissel Wegela teaches a practice to help us see difficult people — and ourselves — more clearly.